Pollster George Barna notes that “the average adult thinks that belonging to a church is good for other people, but represents unnecessary bondage and baggage for himself.”  Today there are droves of professing Christians who have never been committed to the local expression of Christ’s body (the church), and never intend to be.
In his book “Set Apart: Calling a Worldly Church to a Godly Life”, Kent Hughes shares at least six tendencies that are common of Christianity in America when it comes to commitment to the local church.
1) Hitchhiker Christians: These people say, ““You buy the car, pay for repairs and upkeep and insurance, fill the car with gas—and I’ll ride with you. But if you have an accident, you are on your own! And I’ll probably sue.” Today, at the beginning of the third millennium, we have a phenomenon unthinkable in any other century: churchless Christians. Many professed Christians are nomadic (drifting) hitchhikers without accountability, without discipline, without discipleship, living apart from the regular benefits of the ordinances (communion and baptism), and, perhaps most revealing, without responsibility.
2) Consumer Christians: These are “church shoppers [that] attend one church for the preaching, send their children to a second church for its youth program, and go to a third church’s small group. Their motto is to ask, ‘What’s in it for me?’” The consumer mentality “encouraged those who have been influenced by it to think naturally in terms of receiving rather than contributing.”
3) Spectator Christians: “Spectator Christianity feeds on the delusion that virtue can come through viewing, much like the football fan that imagines that he will get strength and courage while watching his favorite pro team. Spectator sports and spectator Christianity produce the same things – fans who cheer the players on while they themselves are in desperate need of engagement and meaning.”
4) Drive-through Christians: “[These kind of people] get their ‘church fix’ out of the way by attending once in a great while or finding a early service on Sunday morning so that the family can save the bulk of Sunday for the all-important soccer game or recreational trip. Of course there is an unhappy price extracted over time in the habits and the arteries of a flabby soul – a family that is unfit for the battles of life and has no conception of being Christian soldiers in the great spiritual battle.”
5) Relationless Christians: Despite the Bible’s emphasis on Christians gathering together in love, today some people say “the best church is the one that knows you least and demands the least…. Of course, the best example of this is the electronic church where Christ’s body can be surveyed by the candid camera and the Word can be heard without responsibility or accountability.” Indeed, Jesus’ Upper Room prayer taught that the quality of Christian relationships is an essential aspect of the church’s witness to the world: “I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me...” (John 17:23).
6) Churchless Worshipers: “The current myth is that a life of worship is possible, even better, apart from the church. As one person casually expressed it, ‘For “church” I go to the mall to my favorite coffee place and spend my morning with the Lord. That is how I worship.’ This is an updated suburban and yuppie version of how to spend Sunday, changed from its rustic forebearer [namely, Emily Dickinson, who said 100 years ago] ‘Some keep the Lord’s Day going to Church – I keep it staying at Home‘”
These tendencies are pretty much accurate (Kent Hughes does describe them with a little more detail – in his book). For now, consider these six and try to meditate on them from a biblical perspective so the next time you meet “so called” Christians like this you have something loving, biblical, and encouraging to share.
 George Barna, The Frog in the Kettle (Ventura, CA: Regal Books, 1991), p. 133.
 Hughes, R. Kent (2003-04-16). Set Apart: Calling a Worldly Church to a Godly Life (Crossway, Kindle Edition).